Displaying Higher Value

I've decided to start blogging again. I have recently caught myself having full on conversations with myself and decided I need somewhere that I can vent once more. I had an old blog, but it became incredibly personal, emotional and embarrasingly cringeworthy so I stopped it. I also have a Tumblr, but that's just for posting cool shit. This blog will just be somewhere I can leave thoughts that have been floating around my head so that I can sleep at night without thinking about it anymore.

The title of this blog comes from Neil Strauss' The Game. A friend of mine introduced me to this book and I read it in a matter of days and was engrossed. Before, if someone had told me to read a book about how to pick up women, I'd have told them to get fucked. But when I really thought about it and had conversations about it without other people (one of them actually being an Aunt of mine), there is nowhere for men to actually learn how to do this properly. For some reason, we're supposed to just know it already. If a man were to admit to his peers that he needed help with talking to girls and was considering reading some books on it or even taking classes on it (they exist), he'd be laughed at, socially degraded and his confidence shot to hell. A lot of men would just say 'fuck that, just talk to them' and some might even say 'be cool and be yourself'. These are, in a way, good pieces of advice. But they are altogether too vague. What do you say to them? How do you be yourself? There's nothing wrong with being yourself and it's definitely imperative that you act in such a way. However, no one can define themselves in one sentence. Who is 'myself'? There are a lot of things I don't like about myself, do I put them across as well? Of course not. That's what 'Displaying Higher Value' means. Be the best version of yourself you can be. Sit down and actually think about what you do and the things make you a good person, and bring that to the table. It sounds like something that doesn't need to be said but a lot of guys just go in there and talk shit and girls get bored. Some just lie, which may work in the short-term but if you're interested in finding a girlfriend then it's something which needs to be avoided, just for the awkwardness when the truth, as it does, comes out. Don't lie. Display higher value.

I'm starting sound like a motivational speaker so I'll wrap this up. I'll probably be talking about The Game again and one of the challenges set forth in The Rules Of The Game, the follow-up.